Monday, August 29, 2011


Advice: Giving & Receiving....

Giving advice

We all like to share our opinions on the things going on around us. When someone asks us for advice, we tend to use our experiences and thoughts to help them. The problem with this is we tend to project our beliefs onto the situation at hand. The most important tool we need to utilize when giving advice is; ACTIVE LISTENING. Active listening is a communication technique that requires the listener to understand, interpret, and evaluate what they hear.

It's imperative to make sure you understand the situation from 'their' point of view. Quite often, people give jaded advice to the people seeking help. They project their own 'issues' into a situation requiring objective correspondence; this is a classic mistake that many people make, everyday. The biggest concern with this is the fact that the person you are helping is 'vulnerable'. A vulnerable person needs their internal thoughts strengthened. This can be a slippery slope. It's very important that you seek out what the person truly wants to do.

When giving advice, attempt to stay away from, "This is what you are supposed to do". Telling someone what they need to do does not garner ownership on their part. The person you are helping needs to own the decisions they are making. If this person doesn't own the decision, they won't have long-term success. They also won’t grow through this experience and therefore, will not be capable of handling the same situation in the future, with ease.

The moral of the story is; refrain from giving advice if you aren't good at active listening. Also refrain from giving advice if you lack the ability to offer an objective, 'in their shoes' point of view. Remember it's, 'What they want to do', not 'What you want to do'.

Receiving advice

This is a much simpler experience to understand. You also need to practice active listening. You 'know' exactly what you want to do; the question you are asking yourself is, should I do 'that' or is there a better way. This is important when receiving advice from someone. When listening to the advice someone is giving you, listen to all sides of it. You need to ascertain whether this person is projecting their personal thoughts onto your situation, or whether it's genuine and objective. This can be very difficult in an emotionally high charged situation.

If you are actively listening to the advice, you can pull out the pieces that resonate within you. This is where you begin to see what your true thoughts are. You begin to say internally and externally, "Yes you are right". The key here is whether the 'YES' is confirmation of a thought or understanding of where you need to go now. This can be tricky. What makes it easier to grasp is, knowing from the beginning if the advice you are getting is objective and from your point of view. If you are practicing active listening, you will know this almost immediately. You will know whether this person is 'saying what you want them to' or 'saying what you know to be the truth'.

The most important thing to remember when receiving advice is: Make sure it is about you and your situation at hand. Don't let people project their failures onto your situations....

Remember cr@p in = cr@p out...

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Thursday 8-25-2011

always share ur knowledge & experience (informational - not directive) with those that mean something to's entirely up to them whether it's beneficial...@ the very least u will give them additional tools to help them make sound decisions 4 themselves....when faced with the obstacles of life. We all wish someone told us something about a lot of the things we've faced... prior to experiencing these things. Judge less...Support more...Happy Thursday youngins!

Monday, August 22, 2011

R u on the sidelines of ur own life??? Dnt let other people play ur game 4 u...everytime u say u can't do something, is a moment lost to success. There r multi-millionaires who possess only a 5th grade education u know y they made it??? They took control of their destiny...u can do whatever u want in life....if u hate ur job or anything else in ur life...plan ur way out...simply complaining wont solve anything...Happy Monday!

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Wednesday 8-17-2011

<---will take "Words to live by, 4 $1000 Alex"...."What r: Support More, Judge Less©?" Remember to always be sincere in ur thoughts, words, and actions...the people who r in ur life may or may not understand or appreciate ur sincerity...that's irrelevant...the important point is, u know it to be genuine...u can only control u...Winner Wednesday is ready 4 the taking...Go Get It!

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Thursday 8-11-2011

U never know when u will inspire someone to be the best they can being the best u can do it all the time. Being the best u can be, doesn't always translate into success....we all fail @ something, everyday...if u failed while doing ur best...there's no stress...There's no such thing as u being an innocent bystander in ur life...Thirsty Thursday is here...Enjoy!

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Wednesday 8-10-2011

Welcome to Wonderful Wednesday Winners...U must always believe in urself, sometimes u r the only person that will believe in u....Ur belief is the only one that counts anyway...people r living their own lives, they rarely have time to have concern about ur shit...self-awareness & self-motivation r important keys to stress free living....Go get it peeps!

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Tuesday 8-9-2011

There's something u can give to other people in abundance and still keep forever...a "SMILE"...give as much as u possibly can today...U never know when ur smile will be the straw that breaks the cycle of discontent someone is enduring...Happy Tuesday superstars!

Monday, August 8, 2011

Monday 8-8-2011

Happy Monday all! Here's ur chance, dnt blow it....Everything starts with believing in matter what life throws u...u will prevail. U may not be the best or have the best, but, u can always hold ur own...dnt let other people measure ur success, better than u can.... Giddy Up!

Friday, August 5, 2011

Friday 8-5-2011

Happy Friday youngins! Don't let anyone hold you back from your goals today....eyes on the prize! If you dnt have any goals, you have only yourself to on that. Giddy Up!

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Thursday 8-4-2011

Hold urself accountable 4 the things that happen in ur life...when u believe someone is putting up a barrier in ur life path... dnt blame them 4 putting the barrier there...plan ur way around, over, under, or thru the barrier...take control of ur existence...obstacles r a part of life...they won't go away... sitting there complaining about them won't do u a bit of good...Happy Thirsty Thursday peeps, drink up life today!

Monday, August 1, 2011

Monday 8-1-2011

The world judges u by the decisions u make… but they never see the options u had to choose from....always make decisions based on what is best 4 u...not by how u think people will view's ur life, get to living it...Happy new DAY/WEEK!