During our busy days we come across those who would seem to not understand us. Is this because these people can care less about our feelings, thoughts, or ideas? Is it because we are expressing our being in a way that isn't easily interpreted? It may be these or many other reasons, which aren't easily discerned.
The real fact of the matter is; most people you come in contact with, can care less. This, in most cast cases, doesn't carry a negative connotation, it simply means they have enough issues within their own being, and have no time to worry about your stuff. This is unfortunately the reality with which we live. Understanding this helps reduce or eliminate the time you spend angry when someone shows disdain toward you. If you really think about it, why should your point be more important to them than their point?
When you are communicating to another person, are you still open to all views? This doesn't mean you need to agree with the views; being open to all views of the subject of conversation allows you to be objective. The point here is, if you are objective you will handle opposition with less angst. When engaged in debate, to be sympathetic to another person's feelings, thoughts, or ideas, doesn't give your power away. This is something we all struggle with, 'Do you understand me?'. We ask each other that everyday. We are so busy attempting to get our point across, we blow right by the other person's point.
We make communicating very complicated and hard. This is because we can't hear with our mouths opened; we are waiting for the other person to be quiet so that we can say what we want to say. In a lot of cases we don't even wait, we interrupt without malice or forethought. This makes it difficult for your point to be interpreted properly. People are continually engaged in conversation where neither are "actively" listening to the other. The 'My point of view' gets in the way of the sharing process. You then immediately go to the 'Do you understand me?' phase of your thought process.
To get your question 'Do you understand me?' answered, you need to understand the person you are directing your question toward. The interesting point here is; once you understand this person, you will realize you don't need to ask the question to begin with. If you seek understanding of the person you are in conflict with, it will give you the tools necessary to effectively present your case to them.
You can communicate the same point many ways to many audiences..... Don't get stuck communicating only one way... eventually no one will understand you
The real fact of the matter is; most people you come in contact with, can care less. This, in most cast cases, doesn't carry a negative connotation, it simply means they have enough issues within their own being, and have no time to worry about your stuff. This is unfortunately the reality with which we live. Understanding this helps reduce or eliminate the time you spend angry when someone shows disdain toward you. If you really think about it, why should your point be more important to them than their point?
To get your question 'Do you understand me?' answered, you need to understand the person you are directing your question toward. The interesting point here is; once you understand this person, you will realize you don't need to ask the question to begin with. If you seek understanding of the person you are in conflict with, it will give you the tools necessary to effectively present your case to them.
You can communicate the same point many ways to many audiences..... Don't get stuck communicating only one way... eventually no one will understand you
Until the next time....
Mrp36
1 comment:
Wow! Really deep thoughts
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